Sometimes the best thing we can do to quiet the buzzing of insecurity and self-doubt is sit back and watch.To pause and notice the looks of love and admiration from those around you, to truly hear that compliment you were given, to understand what your boss is really saying to you when she hands you an important project.To see yourself as others see you.
“Oh what a great gift we would have if we could see ourselves as others see us” Robert Burns
Let others show you your greatness
While it’s important to be able to self-validate and to be able to take control of limiting beliefs, it’s often easier said than done.
Our insecurities can really cloud our vision and judgement at times. In those moments it can be useful to look to others to help you see your greatness. Your boss, friends, family, colleagues, partner.
You know it is there, within you. You know what you are capable of, what your potential is but sometimes it can be hard to believe it coming from yourself. Or it can be scary and overwhelming to allow yourself to see yourself as the powerful, capable person that you are.
Sometimes you just need to switch the lens through which you view yourself.
The ones who see your truth
The beautiful thing about loved ones is that they see you as you are, even when you aren’t capable of seeing yourself clearly. They gravitated to you for a reason, which is likely pretty crystal clear to them.
Take advantage of that clarity to help you discover the most wonderful parts of yourself take advantage of the fact that their minds are free from nagging doubts and fears about your worth and value that they are able to cut right to your truth.
I once received a gift a book from a woman that I worked with and respect a great deal where she wrote on the inside jacket “you don’t even know how good you are”. Eight simple words that gave me the ability to see and the permission to proudly claim the very best parts of me.
Allow them to help you name the gifts that you know are there, but haven’t fully embraced yet.And once you’ve come face to face with your greatness, don’t back away from it. Shine light on it, water it, nurture it. Welcome it. Don’t apologize for it.And then return the favour, and help someone else see theirs.